Find a future Husband in a big city ?

I have lived in NYC area for my whole 20s and am almost 30.


I'm cute, smart and financially stable but am now single after a bad 5 yr relationship ended.


All my younger cousins are now married and my family is starting to put pressure on me to get serious about finding a mate.


Holidays are torture.


They say I'm too picky, but I don't want to date someone and settle and be bored.


But I myself have decided I want to find a nice guy who is family oriented.


It seems really hard to find any men in NYC who are serious about marriage. Many seem to think NYC is their Oyster and all the girls here are their endless supply of pearls.


So I am thinking of moving to a more suburban location and find a guy who is more inclined to settling down eventually.


But Im afraid everyone over 25 in the burbs is either married or miserable divorced guys.


Better to stay in NYC, or move to another smaller city or move to the burbs and look for eligible single guys ?


Advice appreciated!


:-)

Find a future Husband in a big city ?
That's hard to answer because you never know where you'll find love. I'll tell you this though - I live in a small college town right now and people think that that's the reason some of my friends and I are single. But then again a lot of people I know are from more urban areas and met their mates here. I lived in a city before and never met the right guy there either. I've had friends who've moved to more urban or suburban areas before and still didn't have any luck.





My point is - you never know where it'll happen. All you can do is live your life the best way you know how. If moving and trying a new environment is what you really want, then it's worth a shot so that you don't wonder if you stay where you are and don't meet the right guy a few years from now. And whether it works or not, you'll have had some different life experiences.
Reply:dont let it get you down..so you arent married yet, better than getting married at 25 and being divorced by 35..I mean obviously you had a decent relation for 5 years and it wasnt quite the right one, imagine if you gave into the family pressure and got married, now u would be going through a divorce..a lot worse than a break-up.





I dont know the answer to you rquestion, I have lived in Miami and the Bronx and had a decent dating life, I also lied in a smaller town in NJ and one in NC, and still was able to date..now I live in probably the 6-7 biggest city in NM and there is not a decent girl for me to date..it sucks, stay in a bigger area, date some guys, and take your time before getting into a serious relation, try some guys that maybe are a little different than ones you usually date. that is what I am trying , I have dated similar types of girls most of my life, figure since that hasnt worked maybe Ishould try an ddifferent type.





you could move to my town of Silver City NM.. I am single
Reply:do yo really think most of those party hardy guys 25-35 are ready/able to settle down whether city or burbs or rural?
Reply:Go overseas. Look for an Asian. They are family oriented.