What do you find to be the best way to meet a single woman? I don't drink so bars are out. Need a good girl

I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. I like to make people laugh (I used to do stand up comedy. When I ask girls what they look for in a guy they say a sense of humor i have come to realize either that is a lie or just a line they use because if that was true I would have found someone by now. When I go out people say "you would find someone when your looking for them." so then I stay home and people say "well they aren't going to come to you." Then yet people say to me you will find someone when your not looking and when I say ok I give up and I am not going to look and we will see what happens, people then have said to me " I will never find someone with that attitude." I need some real good advice. I want to find miss right

What do you find to be the best way to meet a single woman? I don't drink so bars are out. Need a good girl
I liked your question. Let me give you some tips that I use.





First you have to be willing to speak to women, second you have to be prepared to deal with the fact that not all of the women that you approach in public will be open to meeting someone new. If rejection, silent blank stares or the worst, ignoring you as if you're not there occurs you must be prepared to move on. Quickly. Don't dwell on awkward moments that may not go as you planned, but look at them this way: meeting/dating someone new is just a numbers game and each rejection brings me one person closer to that perfect woman that I want to meet. This will give you an average (not meant to sound as shallow as it does)--i.e., for every 5 women I approach, maybe 1 talks to me, etc.





Something else that you could try that maybe a bit less confrontational is just saying hi. You don't have to stop and talk, just say hi and maybe how are you today, and keep walking. This is a very southern thing. I moved to Michigan from the south and figured speaking to everyone was just an american thing....it's not. The awkward stares I got were quite unnerving. But, this is partly because I wasn't really trying to flirt, I was just being southern and friendly. You however will be flirting. After trying this exercise for a while, starting a conversation might be a little easier





Try making eye contact more often and smiling once you've got someone's glance. Try bookstores (new and used), coffeehouses, malls, grocery stores, downtown plazas where people are just lounging around.





Oh yeah, and waitresses and people on the job are good practice. Some will be cold, but most will try to be nice to you.





Don't count out bars, just don't drink and keep in mind that the drunk chicks probably won't answer their phone when they sober up.





Yeah, and someone said volunteer...that's a good one too.





But one of the best venues to meet possible love interests is in new classes. Regardless of your age you are able to learn something new in a class. Get in shape and join and yoga or pilates class, shed that fear to move and join a salsa dancing class, or German or cooking, etc. These classes are usually offered at a YMCA or you could just check the phone book for yoga classes (or self defense [just thought of that] i.e., kung fu, wing chun, etc.). Some public school systems or recreation departments offer classes like this that usually run for 12 weeks....the one in Ann Arbor Michigan does. Just call your local public school system or recreational department or check the phone book.





Email me as I'd be curious to know of any progress you make finding Ms. Right...or at least Ms. WillDoForNow.
Reply:Well, continue to establish yourself, so your ready if marriage should sneak up on you, or that you are at least self gratifying through your work. There are lots of places to meet women where they aren't going to be dog drunk when you meet. Try a church singles group, go bowling, browse the fruit section of a grocery store, take your dog to the park for a walk when it seems to be the most high traffic time, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or homeless shelter, and try coaching little league or soccer. (there are lots of single Mom's if you don't mind children) There are lots of places where women lurk, hoping to meet nice guys when least expecting it. Be patient it will happen! I agree with Joe C, that internet dating is over-rated and a little creepy since you never know who you're really talking to. Good Luck!
Reply:go to church
Reply:church, friends,network...
Reply:I met my husband at church! Another good idea is to volunteer for something - anything.
Reply:be happy alone.
Reply:You need to have patience, if you go out looking for her, you're probably going to end up with an impostor... but you can't hide out in your house either. Just live your life like you normally do. You're trying too hard.. Good luck
Reply:Nothing wrong with bars. I do not drink or smoke either but I do go to bars some times because that is where most people I know do go. It is a little nutty paying three bucks for a soft drink but then it is the place.





At work is a good place as well. When you are shoping and see someone that looks interesting to you just ask her for a little help please. Yes that really does work.





Never be afraid to speak to another person. Yes it is true you will be snubed many times. People are afreaid of other people. You also will meet some very nice people and be so glad you did speak. Be sure to be pleasant and completely honest about it. If you are snubed then just smile and say thanks and go.
Reply:Wanna talk, I am looking for my mr right





email me at sweetlittlebrat98@yahoo.com
Reply:i know that it may be hard, when i was single it seems as if nobody paid attention to me, but when i was walking with my boyfriend all would look......why? anyways, sometimes if you go someplace and "look" for someone - it's when it least happens, so my advice, go out with friends, be yourself and things will happen to you - you don't make things happen to yourself, does that make sense? i hope so, live life as you would and someone will notice and BE YOURSELF! good luck!
Reply:Don't go out "looking." Build your life, develop your character and become successful. She'll come to you.





And don't listen to the inevitable posts that will follow advising Internet dating.
Reply:Maybe you should "think outside the box" try something new go or try something you never done before in a place you've never been.Get out there and dedicate an alotted amount of time to finding Miss.Right Be patient shes out there!
Reply:Just get yourself out there. You won't find someone stuck inside unless you are on Match.com or something. Get yourself involved in activities you enjoy, join a gym, etc. People won't be able to meet you and see what a great guy you are, if you are couped up inside. There isn't one designated great place to meet women. You can meet people anywhere, the grocery store, church, walking your dog, the park, etc.
Reply:Even if you drink. Good girls don't sprout in bars. Going to church to just to look for a girl is totally wrong. Figure what are your interest and join activities centred around it. You may find someone with similar interest as you.