Where do you find good men?

Hi Im 29 from sydney, and find it difficult to find genuine men...i have now become very negative and untrusting and hurt... I am constantly lied to, cheated on, walked over and used. I work as a nurse, I am quite old fashioned, I love kids, I love all the normal things (except sport and clubbing).. Im a very homely person, Im not that ugly or fat, I have my own homes, a stable job, good family, educated....





Clubs have not worked,the net has not worked, friends of friends has not worked, newspaper ads etc all waste of time! Have not met even one gay male that I have remained friends with.... they are all after sex and if they dont get it...bye bye..Otherwise if they do get sex, they dont fulfil me emotionally. I am a very sensitive and emotional person......whihc is probably not a good mix when it comes to looking for men.... which is also why women find it hard to find men!! They dont tell the truth, cant commit, cant communicate! Where can i find a cute woggy mummies-boy!!??

Where do you find good men?
I am not sure where to find this person, but don't become negative and untrusting of men. It does seem that you have had your fair share of terrible experiences, but negativity shows through when you meet people. If you go in with ideas of disaster, the date will not prove worthwhile either way.


Keep thinking that you will find the person you are meant to be with, and not give up on that. Someone is out there that will have everything you admire/desire, and vice versa for the person when they meet you.





The only thing I look for initially in a date is someone who can hold a conversation over a cup of coffee. Then I take it from there.





I hope that you find the mama's boy you are searching for, but remember.....


A lot of them may not have a place to call their own because they crave the security of their mother.
Reply:In the nicest possible way matey ...just stop looking i can smell the desperation from here ...just relax and let him find you!








I found mine on a building site and i wasnt even looking it can happen and does happen ....just stop looking and give it some time .





Hugs!
Reply:In the history.
Reply:I found my hubby in church.... Not that we are bible thumpers or anything, just good honest people...
Reply:I think it's difficult. I agree with you that these days its not so easy to trust anyone after going through the bad times already. You have to have a very reliable source/information so that you come to a positive conclusion and it satisfies you
Reply:Where are they? I don't know but somehow they show up when you least expect it. Maybe you're trying too hard...I didn't really meet Mr Right until I was 37..(well I met Mr not quite Right at 29)...but I've been with him for 20 years...I find (and I'm by no means an expert) that most of the people I know who are long time couples met in their 30's....so you see you're still a baby at 29 :)...It'll happen. Just when you don't expect it. I really believe that when you really want something badly enough it will happen..read my blog..about the universe conspiring to make things happen...
Reply:Your a smart guy, you have a professional career but you need to rethink how your looking and where you look





For example: Your dinning experiences are determined by the place you choose.....big difference in going to a quality restaurant listed in a city guide than a neighborhood dinner....different class of people...





You spend a lot of time on the net doing ads and answering responses....people on the Internet look for quick solutions and easy hook ups....because the amount of time required this way is immediate gratification.





have you ever thought of the time requires to go to bookstore reading by an author you like....art show....a museum exhibit....people who do these activities are not immediate gratification types.....they plan these events....dress for the occasion...and usually have a dinner out too.....





ever volunteered at a gay organization....serious types hang there





now you say your homely.....well if you feel that way.....then you project that......and do people want to date a person who thinks their homely............Donald trump with the bad hair...and it is bad...thinks he hot ****.......so people find him sociably acceptable.......but some kewl clothes.....change your hair...people will notice..........wear a smile!!!!!!!!!!





negative attitude is big turn off bud.........do you want to party with a downer.......no one does........only you hold yourself back
Reply:on the internet....
Reply:you are not going to find a perfect man never. Stop looking for perfection and star thinking, SO WHAT! so what if he is not that cute.... So what if he got a crazy style... So what if he not that's smart. I guess if I was looking for someone it will be some one totally different than me. Maybe you can try that and remember physical attributes fades with the pass of the years but real love remains forever in your heart. Good luck!!!