How Do You Find Out?

I'm 16 and I would love to be able to find my real father, but how do you find out the name of one of your birth parents when your family wont talk about that person at all?? All they refer him as is JP, maybe its his initials. I did have the idea to check my birth certificate, but his name wasnt on there, and for some reason they made sure he wasnt going to be.. I've been wanting to meet him since I was really little, and now I decided to try to start finding him.. Any ideas on how to find out his name so I can have a chance on finding him???

How Do You Find Out?
scan the picture onto the computer and post it on websites. See how far you can get from there. you will be surprised how many people know your "father"
Reply:Good luck with your search, sounds like you have an uphill battle if your family won't talk about it. They are depriving you of something you need to know. Even if it's bad news. You might check w/ public records at city hall.
Reply:the way your family is acting may be childish and unfair but they are just trying to protect you...from what i dont know.


i was raised by my adoptive step father and maternal mother. they always told me i would never want to meet my real father because he was an asshole. of course i didnt listen. i did meet him and it sucked. i was all pumped up for someone who cared and really he didnt care at all. i had made up this fantasy father in my head and he didnt live up to it at all. not even close it made things worse not better.


just be sure you really want to find him. sometimes its better to just wonder and make up a wonderful person in your head. chances are if he hasnt tried to find you he isnt worth finding.


i wish you the best of luck
Reply:i have no idea to be honest..sorry..good luck though okay
Reply:The only way for you to find out is for a family member to tell you or for a friend of the family who was around during that time to tell you.





Why not inform your family that you want to find your father and above all you deserve to know who he is. It's up to you to decide whether you like him or not.....not for them to decide for you. What they are doing is very unfair and childish.





Stand your ground! Best of luck.