To find out or not to find out?

My partner and are trying to decide whether to find out what the sex of the baby is or wait. He doesnt want to know but I do and i said well I'll find out and not tell you and he was like no. So how many of you foudn out and what was the best thing bout finding out and was it still as good as a surprise when you had it.

To find out or not to find out?
When I was pregnant, I let my ex and my mother find out the sex of the baby, because I absolutely didnt want to know...i wanted it to be a surprise. Well, needless to say, they each told somebody, and that somebody told somebody else, and it ended up spreading like wildfire, and I ended up finding out the sex of the baby. I was very disappointed. So, unless you are planning on telling absolutely NOBODY, I wouldnt find out. Because even if you only tell one person, that you really really trust, things slip out with out us realizing it, and whomever they accidentally tell, may not know that it is intended to be a secret.
Reply:I understand the element of surprise you are going for, but it makes it a lot easier if you are going to have a baby shower and if you want everything to be prepared when baby comes home. If you don't want to find out then I would suggest having a welcome home part instead, that way you know exactly what you need. I found out the sex with both of my children,and I was just as happy if not more then if I hadn't found out. Remember ultrasounds are not 100% but they are pretty close. Congrats and Good Luck.
Reply:Like someone said before. If you find out now you will still a wonderful surprise when the baby is born in regards to what the baby loks like or who the baby looks like! I am 27 weeks with my first and I didn't want to know at first but my hubby did. I shed tears of joy when they told me it was a girl, I am an only child and it was great to have a girl! We have bought some clothes and have gotten gifts already! I couldn't stand the yellow and green!





Good luck!
Reply:I was indecisive at first but I looked at the ultrasound and saw clearly that it was a boy....no one had to explain that to me! I am glad we found out becuase I was looking at unisex stuff and all that yellow and green gets kinda old after a while. I like my little boy outfits! And my husband is completely happy about having a boy. If you can go without knowing then congrats but I would go crazy wondering!!!!
Reply:My daughter said her and her mate did not want to know, but when the time came she asked and didnt say anything to him but he guessed. He was ok with that, but I guess it all depends on how suprised he want to be. It does not matter as long as their healthy.One thing about knowing is you know what to buy for clothes, but keep it netural. Congrats on your new addition, and good luck!
Reply:Well, I found out on all 3 of them. I couldn't wait. The best thing about finding put is obviously that you can buy things for your new baby early. Buying neutral colors isn't as much fun. I you want a certain sex, and you find out that you are having what you want, then I think it makes the pregnancy a whole lot better. You kinda feel like "wow this is really worth it." I wanted a girl with my last one, and I found out it was a boy, and I was pretty upset, so I guess that would be a drawback. I mean I was really really upset. I never wanted a boy I had 2 girls before that, and I just lost all interest. So I guess you could say that maybe in that case I shouldn't have found out. But I think I would have been a lot more upset if I didn't know. There's really not too many pros and cons about finding out, it's just a matter of preference.
Reply:I found out ( i am 36 weeks pregnant now) that i am having a boy - there was no way i could keep a secret from myself. I kind of wish that my husband didnt know as he has let it slip a number of times. I will only find out next time.





I am glad i know as it has allowed me to buy clothes and room furnishings that are boyish and i feel more like we know each other.





I figure that it will be shock enough on the day just meeting him regardless of the sex so it was nice to find out at 18 weeks and have at a suprise then. I really wanted a boy so i am so happy to have known that is what i am having for the last 18 weeks.





Each to their own - some people like suprises.
Reply:Just find out! You're the one carrying the baby and the one that will more than likely do most of the preparation for bringing the baby home. It's so nice to know ahead of time.
Reply:I found out with both of mine,i am pregnant again and in a month i will find out again...I think the surprise is not taken away when u find out at all,u dont know what the baby looks like or anything so there are many surprises at birth/.....I say find out as soon as u can,its the best in the world...To see the little one on screen and when they say that word its a girl or its a boy,your heart just stops and u feel overwhelmed with joy...i tell u u will not regret it,u will be soo happy u found out...I was definitely surprised with my two,my daughter cam out sooo chubby with rolls everywhere and a butt chin which was the cutest ever..my son was born chubby as well but had these eyes that were to die for...go for it,u will enjoy it!!!Have fun and good luck!
Reply:I found out for my first two, and not my last one. It wasn't my choice, couldn't see to tell. I hated not knowing, and I loved finding out, even though I never got the gender I wanted. It helped me to get over that and look forward to seeing the baby. When I didn't know, I felt hope of getting the gender I never got. Took me longer to bond with her because I didn't have the time beforehand to grieve for the lost hope and son I never got. I always preferred to know, bugs me not to know, and it is what I needed. My needs are just as important as his to know or not, it is your baby, and your needs. You need to do what works best for you, and the rest will work itself out, like many conflicts. Remember to respect his needs too, without giving up your own.