I want to find out & he does not want to find out!?

How do u handle this?


I wanna find out what we're having to get stuff ready, but he doesn't want to find out. My family wants to find out, and his mom insists we don't find out. Ofcourse it doesn't matter who else wants to know or not, it only matters if him or I do...I'm 11 wks right now, and in 9 wks from now we can find out, how do you figure out what to do in this situation of wanting the opposite?

I want to find out %26amp; he does not want to find out!?
Ok it sounds like he's being awfully bossy. Why should he dictate what type of ultrasound you have? They may want to do a 3D ultrasound at some point to check the babies development and it helps them do a better job. It is also a very NEAT experience. If you want to know the gender of your child and he doesn't maybe you can compromise but do not let him or anyone else dictate what type of ultrasound you can have done. If it was me I would be like sorry buddy you picked the names I am seeing the gender deal with it! but that's just me lol
Reply:leave it alone it can wait
Reply:Ask the doctor what you're having, but don't tell your significant other...buy pink or blue stuff on your own in private and decorate the nursery while he is away. Keep the nursery door closed so he can't see what the theme is until the little one is out in the real world. If your mom wants to throw you a boy or girl themed baby shower then you can have on at her house and keep all your presents there until the big day. As far as names go, you will still have to pick out a name for both sexes and try not to giggle because you know which name it will really be! Good luck!
Reply:It may be a bit tricky...but you can find out, just don't tell him. If he goes with to the ultrasound have him leave the room, and wait for the tech to tell you. I'd rather know the gender to be prepared.
Reply:My sister-in-law was the same but she didn't want to know and her husband did. He asked the sonographer after she had left the room and then he kept it to himself for the rest of the pregnancy.





If you want to find out then that's your right. Just don't tell him and keep the clothes and stuff at your Mum's place for the meantime.
Reply:i think you shood respect his wishes. if its you wanting to be prepared get nuetral colorls like white yellow light blue
Reply:i agree with joanne... you could find out and he can let it be a surprise. good luck!
Reply:i'm in the same predicament myself.... he doesn't want to know what the sex is, but i sure do. i want to prepare for the baby. i'd like to go to the store and say "that's a cute outfit, my son/daughter will look beautiful in it"





i want to respect his wishes, but i really want to know.... but i've suggested for me to know and for him to find out the day the baby is born... but still against it.





my ultrasound appointment is this friday, we'll see if he changes his mind about finding out the sex of the baby...





i would defiently find out!!!
Reply:you are carrying it for nine months and you have every right to find out if you want to.





just dont tell him and keep buying neutral colors.


its not fair that you have to carry it and he makes all the decisions. he should respect your wishes because you are giving him a child!





he seems way too controlling. if he is picking the names, then you get to find out the sex thats only fair
Reply:Dont bother .. first they told me I was having a girl and now there saying boy and my closet is full of pink!!! let it be a surprise !!!!!!
Reply:If you can't keep a secret don't find out.But if you have to know find out and try like hell to keep it to urself.
Reply:why dont you go in together and if they can tell, he can make a decision to leave the room. you are the mother you have a right to know. Then, tell the people you want to tell.





When buying pink or blue put it in a box for when he / she comes or take it to your mothers.





If nothing ele its great weapon in a argument lol "shut up or ill tell you what sex the baby is " lol.....can be fun. Just dont give the game away when discusing baby names