Pressure to find a gf!?

just came out of a 2 yr relationship which towards the end was quite messy for loads of reasons.





anyhow its been almsot 3 months now- at first found it really hard to cope as I missed the company and the texting/ringing etc ( probz the attention )





enjoying who Iam now- got a new job seeing more of friends etc and starting new hobbies....





trouble is alot of my mates are starting to find gf's ( not wanting to come out )


Personally I find it boring jsut going up the pub and into town ever weekend. I want to actually do stuff with my time and enjoy gonig places with mates- but they seem reluctant.





So its pushing me back into the light of finding a gf- I really aint ready for another relationship yet Im starting to feel lonely and feel time is wasteing away.


Is it normal that I dont want to think about being in a relationship any time soon?


And why does it seem asthough everyone else is trying to find a gf? meen god sake we're young aint we? whats the need to settle down so?

Pressure to find a gf!?
this i want to give u is not normally an answer but an advice,..


i have realized your problem and the first thing that came up to my mind is that you are already open-minded of the possible things that can happen in your life bcoz of your xperience n ur past relationship, ds have taught you many things like loving nd knowing urself first b4 going to anoder relationshp again, you wanted to satisfy first your needs bcoz u know ur capable of getting what u want... juz don't pressure urself in finding gf, as long as u enjoy ur life today, drs no prob.. but bare in mind, that settling down, and having family after knowing urself, wud make you a better person nd a founder of a good family relationshp...hope dis advice cud help u find urself... good luck nd god bless...
Reply:If your not ready then you shouldn't rush into anything, because if you start a relationship whe your not ready it won't go anywhere.
Reply:i'm on the same boat bud. came out a 9 year relationship. got into it when i was 17. anyway. been simgle for over a year now, tried new relationships afew times and wondered if i would ever get the chance to settle down. now i've just realised that i just wanna party and have a good time. i'm living the youth i missed out on. while all my mates were on 18-30 holidays, i was at home with ma girl. all i can say is, roll on the weekend and the summer, coz its gonna be one big party. enjoy yourself while you can. stay single for a year at least. unless you find the one. i've changed my perspective of life over the last few months. once a depressed ex, now a hardcore party animal.


we'll get there at one point mate.
Reply:well least u had a gf. i aint had one yet and im stil waiting and its been 20 years
Reply:There is nothing wrong with not wanting another relationship so soon after ending one. You need time to grieve, heal and as you are already doing...find out who you are and what you do and don't want in your life.


You should not be "pushed" into another relationship by anyone...including by yourself because your mates are not occupying your time as much as you think they should.


Take time for you...alone time is good as long as you are not alone "all" of the time.


Find a hobby that will entertain you when your mates are not around.


Wait until you feel like you are ready to start being open to another relationship.





be cool...
Reply:HEY MAN DONT LET IT PUT YOU DOWN, I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING EXCEPT MY RELATIONSHIP WAS 3 YEARS AND 6 MONTHS AND NOW I GUESS IM TRYING TOO HARD TO FIND SOMEONE THAT IM NOT FINDING ANYONE , GIVE IT TIME MAN, YEAH I AGREE, GIVING IT TIME SUCKS BUT HEY WHAT ELSE CAN YOU DO, YOU DONT WANT TO FORCE SOMEONE TO LIKE YOU CUZ YOU WONT BE HAPPY. MY BEST ADVISE IS TIME AND JUST KEEP MEETING PEOPLE, THATS WHAT IM DOING NOW, I GAVE UP LOOKING MAYBE LATER ON ILL FIND SOMEONE. HOPE IT HELPS
Reply:you're not ready for one so stick with the hobbies and friends or if they're busy do something that you really enjoy that you can do more of on your own. you'll only regret it if you have a gf before you're really ready, and just because you're lonely, and she may end up getting hurt which isn't fair. you'll know in yourself when you're ready and when you've met the right person, follow your instincts and don't be pressured into something as serious as this. chill out.
Reply:Dont bother finding a new girlfriend if ure not ready, just remind your friends that girls may not be there forever as you once experienced,its silly to spend ALL your time with a partner, go and have some fun whilst you can, one day youll be married and miss single life!
Reply:Go out with your mates and their girlfriends, ask them if they have any single mates. That should do it.
Reply:of coarse it's normal that you don't want another relationship now, 2 years is a long time to spend with someone! But you can still go out and enjoy yourself, even with your mates although you are single. I'm single and all of my close friends have bf's. I go out with them a lot and I always enjoy it! I understand how you feel because the same thing happened to me. I moved here from South Africa in March so it was a huge thing for me to leave everyone I love behind, including my bf! I'm not looking for a relationship either but that doesn't mean you can't have fun with your friends just because you don't have a gf!
Reply:i would worry about it.do what you feel.but dont get a bird to cure your boredom theres plenty to do out there. i split up with my bird 3 years ago now im worried that i dont have time for another 1. as long as you get a bit here n there and your happy who cares.
Reply:From what you said I don't think you want a girlfriend at the moment. You're better off enjoying the single life while you can.
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