Trying to find mother, i'm not adopted, she left years ago?

she left 20 years ago, and please don't say why bother looking, i only want closure, and yes i am sure that i do. anyway, i am wondering if anyone knows of a good way, i have even paid the $60 search and sent out about 12 letters to the addresses i got, with no responses. she may not want to be found, or i may not have found her, but either way, i am determined to. i have a friend who found her father through some organization, very small, i want to say it was called ALMA? anyway, i can't find any info on them, does anyone know of them, or some other similar organization i could go through? i really need to find her (physical address i can go to preferably), if for nothing else than closure. thanks in advance!

Trying to find mother, i'm not adopted, she left years ago?
Honey: it took me seven years of hard work, not so much money because I and a cousin did all the "walking" Start with an Internet number like lostpersons.com : Go to the last known address and talk to old friends. Find out where she might have gone, her dreams. Remember, the police don't have to tell you where she is, only is she O.K. so....there out. I'm sure right now she has another life if she's O.K. you might want to walk carefully, although she's your mom, she may not want contact with you, Be prepared for heartache.
Reply:Yes, it takes a special king of person to abandon their kid but, unfortunately it happens all the time. Whether your looking for closure or revenge, you have to ask yourself what you want. Please don't be to harsh on her, she may have had a motive that takes understanding. Report It

Reply:Try going into yahoo search then type in the words find missing person no dot com but not all one word either. The first 2 will say find missing person $9.95 , click on it it will bring you to usa people search it might be worth looking into best of luck
Reply:feel for you believe me...when my parents split, my mother couldn't handle life, so she split as well...I saw her 2 times over 25 years....I called her once to say I'd like to visit her, she said "there's nothing here for you", then some years later she called me and wanted to see me. Her idea, she bought the plane tickets, so I went. She was still sort of stuck in the past, but we had an ok visit. When it was time to say good-bye, I cried my eyes out, somehow I knew that was the last I'd see her, she passed away 4 yrs ago the 30th of this month, I don't know if there ever will be "closure", so much time went by not in my life, that it just leaves an empty feeling now...Sorry this isn't the most uplifting of a story, but sometimes we go looking for something that isn't there, and when we find it, it still isn't there...hope this doesn't sound too dumb....
Reply:when you say she left 20 years ago. what do you mean,? Did she give you up for adoption or leave you with a parent and take off.?





If she gave you up for adoption the agency might be able to help you find her address where she was when she gave you up . thats a start to at least were she was then.





You could really start with death certificates. 20 years she may not be with us anymore. Or marriage liscense. If she has married she may have changed her last name but looking up a lisence you can use her madian name and go from there knowing her new name. Could she have gotten arrested for anything anytime. She may have a record somewhere. Not to be evil but its a place to look.





Do you know the last place she worked.? You could ask people there. Do you know any of her relitives.? Some one she would still have contact with. ?





Do you think she is in the same state with you.? Try putting an add in the personals to find her, but make sure NOT to put your address or phone number. get PO BOX for mail. Thats safer.


Good luck.
Reply:i am not sure. but i would say try one of those tv shows. oprah, muary, etc. they might be able to really help you through their links. good luck!! i really hope u find her

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