Should I find out the sex of this baby?

I am pregnant with my second baby. I want this one to be different. I found out what I was having with my son. I want this one to be a suprise! Hubby wants to find out. He said at least he should find out so he can decorate the nursery (He won't let me see it.) I trust him that he won't tell anyone and will keep it a secret from me, but I don't want anything to slip up. This baby is just as much his as it is mine and I realize I should consider what he wants, but I still don't want to know. Am I being selfish? Hubby says that I can pick out all girl stuff and all boy stuff and he will pick up what ever it is. He wants to know why I want to not find out, and the biggest reason is sharing the suprise with the family. He suggested getting the u/s tech to write it on a piece of paper and finding out with the family at a party. I don't know what to do and keep him happy.

Should I find out the sex of this baby?
I think that sounds like fun. I would totally go for it. Then you can be surprized and he can set it up for you. It seems as though he's cool with you not knowing. And maybe this is something he want to do to serve you in a unique way so I say, let him do it.
Reply:Tell him to paint the nursery a pale yellow. It is a neutral baby color, good for girls and boys. Hey, sokme boys like pink, and some girls like blue, maybe flip a coin...
Reply:Do what it is that you want. Even though it may seem selfish, you are the one carrying this baby. Dealing with the cramps, joys, pains, and changes along with it. You should be the happiest when it is all said and done because it was majorly your journey. Im not saying exclude him, however what he is asking for can put your happiness in danger. If you ruin this pregnancy, which may possibly be your last, you will never know the excitement of learning seconds after your bundle of joy arrives. 5 months pregnant, when family learns it's a girl, the excitement is faded a bit and the only thing you get to say on Delivery day (D-day) is "She's here." Not very exciting, since they knew when she was coming too. Keep yourself happy. You deserve it.





Ps... decorate the room with neutral colors until it can be offsetted with some gender appropriate outfits. Paint the room Yellow or white and decorate with blue or pink after D-day.
Reply:its a hard 1 this i wanted to wait until baby was born but my hubby said it would best as money was tight and at least this way we can deal with it i did as he wanted and to be honest i wish i did,nt find out i really am hoping to get pregnant again jus as too have a surprise at the end of it maybe u should let him get his wish his is a good idea u dont need to know like u say u trust him Just do what u have to do with every other man on this planet keep on reminding him u dont want 2 know wish u and ur family all the besst good luck to the new arrival what ever he/she maybe xxxx
Reply:My wife and I will wait until the delivery to know the sex of the baby. It's one of the only true surprises left in the world.





To the others that comment: "You will be surprised either way." Do you open your Christmas presents early because you'll be surprised anyway? There is a reason for waiting. Building the anticipation is part of the journey.
Reply:It's amazing how quickly people come to expect something as a 'right',not so many years ago there was no way to tell the sex of a baby before it was born.I chose not to find out with my children,I think it adds to the mystique and joy surrounding childbirth.Just because you can do something,it doesn't always mean you should.Wait it out,it makes the birth a little bit more special!
Reply:ur not being selfish..u just want it to be a surprise i dont blame ya
Reply:The baby will be a huge cellibration weather or not the sex is a surprise. I think it is best to know the sex so you can prepare yourself mentally.





If he knows, you will find out. You will see some pink or blue and the secret will be spoilled and then maybe you will be mad. Why risk that.
Reply:If it was my second child, I'd want it to be a surprise! I'm only pregnant with my first right now. It's a boy! We needed to find out to make sure we had everything we needed as first time parents. Maybe your husband can find out, and keep it a suprise from you!! :)
Reply:I was in your same situation and in the end just gave in. I decided it wasn't worth fighting with my husband over and besides, its a surprise whether you find out now or wait until the birth right?! Congratulations to you both!
Reply:How about he just finds out,he can still decorate the nursery and everything (u dont have to look)...If he wishes he can ask the u/s tech to tell him and not you..I found out the sex of my 2 children and im gonna find out with this one also,i think its so exciting going into the room and waiting...If u really do not want to know then just let him,it will all work out in the end then..Good Luck!
Reply:if u think he can keep it a secret then let him know what it is.